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SF001: The Sandwich Generation
For the first time, "Sandwich generation" appears in the dictionary -- directly as a result of our work in the past 15+ years. What is The Sandwich Generation? What is its role in society? The answers are here. (Also see Conversations #1.)
SF002: Becoming a Parent to a Parent
Adult children DO become a parent to a parent and must take the leadership role in the relationship. Here's why and how.
SF003: After the Funeral
A daughter tells her story of having to "empower" her mother after the father/husband dies. The story, told in two parts, begins shortly after the funeral, with a look back after the first year. Great TIPS on empowering an elder.
SF004: Laughter = Best Medicine
Research continually shows that laughter and a sense of humor can be very healthy and help reduce stress. Thoughts here of Paul McGhee, author of "The Laughter Remedy," as they appeared in THE SANDWICH GENERATION magazine.
SF005: The Changing Role of Health Care Professionals
A 3 part series of articles that looks at the health care scene today and what you should expect. Physicians and other geriatric professionals were interviewed in depth. Their answers are presented here.
SF006: The Guilt Trap
The trap is ever there. Will YOU fall in? Learn how to avoid this high stressor trap.
SF007: Will Your Heirs Get What You Want Them To?
Will YOUR heirs be cheated? The real truth behind multiple marriages and inheritances. Your heirs may get nothing. Learn why and how to protect your $$.
SF008: Four Generations Plus Struggle for Balance
A real life story of a generous family who had both various elderly family members live with them as well as two troubled young boys, who were complete strangers. Numerous pets that also needed care added to the family dynamics. TIPS to help YOU cope.
SF009: Grudges Tough to Deal With
Grudges can tear you apart. The experts discuss the whys and how to avoid them.
SF011: Moving Elders
Moving a parent from the family home MUST be a joint decision. A first person story of a family who had to decide how the mother could best be cared for. A long list of questions to ask.
SF012: Living Wills, Medical Proxy
If you don't take action before a crisis, complete strangers can legally make life and death decisions for you and spend your hard earned money. Learn how to protect yourself, your wishes and your family. A very special series that is must reading.
SF013: How Three Generations Adjust to Living Together
This is the story of three generations, from ages 3 to 77, and the adjustments all had to make. Although Grandma was extremely independent, she could no longer live alone. She moved in with her granddaughter and family. Those involved tell their own story, about their feelings and concerns and the adjustments that had to be made.
SF014: Breaking the Barriers to Communicating With an Elder
An integral thread in personal relationships, communications is a two-way street. By understanding how hearing and sight losses impact an elder, a "Sandwich Generationer" can improve elder relationships and develop win-win strategies. TIPS tell you what to do and what not to do.
SF015: How to Do "IT" Better
Elder caregiving can be less stressful and more rewarding if you follow a number of acronyms -- from using the words STOP and HELP to The 4 A's of Role Reversal.
SF016: The Tragedy of Alzheimer's
"Here" but not here... Dementia and Alzheimer's effects a large portion of the elderly. They rob people of their personality and families of their loved ones. A series of articles giving in depth insight into dementia, with down-to-earth coping TIPS. There are many kinds of dementia that are curable.
SF017: Should You Quit Work to Care for Mom? NO!
There are many sound reasons why a woman should NOT quit work to stay home and care for a sick or aged parent -- or husband. The reasons YOU should continue working at something you love to do. There are alternatives, which include adult day care and geriatric care managers for long distance care. Learn what you need to make important decisions.
SF018: Understanding Stressors and Personalities
Eight types of personalities are discussed with TIPS on how to regain control of your own life and better deal with an aging parent or spouse. Also, different kinds of stress, conflicting guilt emotions, and how to care for your "I SELF" are discussed in a series of articles.
SF019: Spirituality == THE Key to Life
Spiritual and physical health go hand-in-hand. Nurturing the spirit, from both non-religious and religious vantage points, is important to elders and "Sandwich generationers." Everyone needs to tie into one's own spirit. Learn how.
SF020: End of Life Decisions
Everyone has the right to live and die as one wants. Everyone's parameters for quality of life and desired death are different. But all too often, tough decisions need to be made. It's ok to let go.
SF021: Long-term Care Insurance
More people will use benefits from long-term care insurance than from car or homeowner's insurance. A series of articles deals with: should you or shouldn't you get LTCI; repercussions if you say "no"; the law; what to look for. And some DON'Ts. And the fact you're not alone if you haven't even thought about LTCI.
SF022: Illegal Nursing Home Contracts
Placing a loved one in a nursing home is a tough decision. It's not a good time to have to read the fine print in a SNF Contract. But you need to know there are illegal clauses in many contracts. Here's what they are and what you should do.
SF023: Blended Families Equal Different Stressors and Opportunities
Four generation families, composed of both related and unrelated people, have become more common. Here a family talks about the various emotional needs of a confused 74-year-old to a 2-year-old toddler. And TIPS are offered for everyone.

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